Head to head
Which one will break you first?
Two fingerprints on one grid. Both are scored through your profile, so this answers the question for you rather than for the average player.
Darkest Dungeon is the harder of the two for you, by 0.7 points. The gap is widest on punishment, where Darkest Dungeon asks considerably more than Age of Empires II: Definitive Edition. If you want the gentler run, start with Age of Empires II: Definitive Edition.
Axis by axis, biggest gap first
DARKEST DUNGEON
It barely tests your hands at all; it tests whether you can walk away from a dungeon you have already paid for.
Long walls, many attempts. Bring patience.
AGE OF EMPIRES II: DEFINITIVE EDITION
Build orders are the curve, and the campaigns teach almost none of what the game actually asks for. The hard AI does not forget its economy while it fights.
Sustained pressure. Progress is earned.