Head to head
Which one will break you first?
Two fingerprints on one grid. Both are scored through your profile, so this answers the question for you rather than for the average player.
Age of Empires II: Definitive Edition is the harder of the two for you, by 2.3 points. The gap is widest on strategy, where Age of Empires II: Definitive Edition asks considerably more than Hades. If you want the gentler run, start with Hades.
Axis by axis, biggest gap first
HADES
Hard in a way that always moves forward: you lose the run but never the hour, because failure is the currency the next attempt is bought with.
You will lose sometimes. You will not mind.
AGE OF EMPIRES II: DEFINITIVE EDITION
Build orders are the curve, and the campaigns teach almost none of what the game actually asks for. The hard AI does not forget its economy while it fights.
Sustained pressure. Progress is earned.